One Stray Thought On A Friday

It’s Friday, Friday / Gotta get down on Friday / Everybody’s lookin’ forward to the weekend, weekend / Friday, Friday / Gettin’ down on Friday / Everybody’s lookin’ forward to the weekend.

These are my sentiments exactly, but before we can get to “Partyin’, partyin’ (Yeah) / Partyin’, partyin’ (Yeah) / Fun, fun, fun, fun,” we’ll have to eke out the last few minutes of a Friday afternoon. In order to help you do that, here is a special edition of Ten Stray Thoughts On A Friday.

On Amy Nelson And The Case Of Sexism In Sports

Normally, I take my last post on Friday and fill it with ten unrelated subjects that have something to do with baseball. They’re usually fragments of abandoned posts or random thoughts that I come across while watching a game or reading a story online, and I try to explain my feelings on the topic as concisely as I can.

However, yesterday, several of Amy Nelson’s colleagues and other writers spoke out publicly about the insults she has received, both on Twitter and in the comments section of the ESPN piece that she co-authored: The Article Which Shall Not Be Linked. The most retweeted of the comments was this one:

Let me begin by saying that in no way do I support any of the unnecessary slurs sent Nelson’s way. In fact, at first, I didn’t even believe it. I was thinking of writing an article about what was really said about Nelson, and how people are defending her and deflecting criticism for the article by making about sexism.

I was dead wrong.

A quick search of Amy Nelson’s mentions on Twitter pulled up hundreds and hundreds of inappropriate comments,

It’s so depressingly juvenile and stupid, it reminds me that the average person likely has more in common with an orangutang than a great thinker. Insulting her in such a fashion is so rife with contradictions I feel as though it’s going to give me an aneurysm. The reasoning behind using hurtful words in this case would look something like this: I’m so mad that Amy Nelson wrote an article so devoid of knowledge and awareness that I’m going to direct words at are that are even more ignorant than the ones she used. Only in this case, instead of questioning a baseball team, these people are personally attacking someone.

It also upsets me because there are serious flaws and holes in her and Peter Keating’s article that should be refuted, but unfortunately, now that the orangutangs have reduced it to dung flinging and name calling, an intelligent dissent gets tainted.

However, I do take issue with one thing that’s being said a lot here, and that’s that the “sexist shit” that Amy Nelson is currently putting up with isn’t evidence that female sportswriters are treated equally to their male counterparts. If anything it points to the opposite.

Have we not read comment sections before on blogs and websites? It doesn’t matter if you’re a man, woman or a literal orangutang, you will receive vitriol, and because it’s coming from people who aren’t bright enough to find alternative creative outlets for the dismay in their life, the comments themselves will be of the variety that picks low hanging fruit.

I honestly don’t believe that those making the sexist comments are smart enough or self aware enough to even realize that they’re sexist. They’re picking on the most obvious difference that Nelson offers them and using their slurs with a level of ironic detachment that allows them to delude themselves into thinking that they’re not being sexist.

It happens to me all the time, and I don’t have nearly as big of a reach as Nelson. I also don’t have a very deep voice, and so I get people calling me gay in comment sections and message boards. Hilarious stuff, I know. One time, I mentioned the specific spelling of my mother’s name on a podcast and the next day the comments section was filled with vulgar descriptions of what people were going to do with my mother. I’ve even received emails on a Friday night, when any normal person is socializing or doing something recreationally, that are filled with multiple paragraphs of absolute hate.

There are a lot of sad individuals out there. And they’ll find any target they can to project some of the sadness from their own lives. Even if the comments themselves are sexist, they have nothing to do with treating female sports reporters any differently from than males. There are likely several other places to look in order to find evidence of that.

Remember this article from Jeff Pearlman?

Comments (22)

  1. I actually don’t mind Nelson or Keating as writers most of the time. That’s why I was so surprised when this came out. But yeah, internet trolls even get to me and I have zero reach…orangutans.

    On the plus side, there’s this:

  2. I’m a little disappointed that the first comment wasn’t “Fuck off, Parkes.”

  3. So is Stoeten a sad individual?

  4. can we seriously just put this piece of steaming poop behind us? I’m so tired of it. There is absolutely no reason that this should have come to the forefront, but for some reason, this is news? It drives me insane. The first time I saw it, I honestly couldn’t believe what I was seeing. It’s drivel from start to finish. There is just 0 talent within this entire thing and we all know it. It’s a really stupid song, no matter who covers it or how they do it.

  5. that comment was intentionally misleading, by the way.

  6. Grady wins the internet

  7. Thank you Parkes for posting this. Everytime I read som stupid comment attacking any of you guys I wonder how low someone’s intelligance is. I keep my facebook, twitter and whatever blogs I post on as professional as possible. For one you never know who is reading them and I want people to know what you see online is what you get in real life. Also it automatically makes some lose any credibility when they try to start a flame war with childish words that have no connection to what they are commenting on.

    That article from CNN was a great read. Of course the second guy still lived at home with his parents. It would have been funiier if he read out what the kid wrote to his mother. Keep up the good work guys!

  8. “It happens to me all the time, and I don’t have nearly as big of a reach as Nelson. I also don’t have a very deep voice, and so I get people calling me gay in comment sections and message boards.”

    IMO this is one of the reasons why the comment section at Getting Blanked is better than the one at DJF. The DJF monkey Army seemed to have a vocal, ignorant, fratboy-esque faction to it.

    “F-off Parkes” was kind of funny for awhile, but other personal attacks and insults really reduced the level of discourse (yes, even though a lot of the Blog’s content consisted of swearing and dick jokes, it was no excuse for some of the sh**t said in the comments section).

  9. A very vocal one of the dung flinging, name calling orangutans is your buddy Stoeten. Amy Nelson is a reporter who reported a story. A story that’s been floating around MLB for a few years now. She didn’t invent the story out of thin air just to fuck with the Jays.

    It’s nice that you wrote this, Dustin, but you have shit-slingers in your own house.

  10. anyone looking forward to Rogers’ new bi-weekly sports magazine’s coverage of this story? hahaha….jeeeeeeeeeez

  11. blah blah blah i cant hear what you’re saying, i got my 2 world series rings stuck in my ears

  12. sigh, i’ll just rehash what i said before:

    defamatory? are you fucking kidding me? what the bloody fuck happened to the drunk jays fan parkes? you’re really gonna censor people for defamatory comments on 2 cocksucking espn hacks? never mind the fact that espn in pretty much the fox news of the sports world, but this is a fuckin BLOG not a fucking newpaper. i can say whatever the fuck i want.

    also, @JCock, the DJF monkey army is alive and well and our supreme ruler Mr. fatboy cumguzzler STOETEN (or FCS for short) has never been better. go read those today in moron posts and be enlightened

    ps Drew is still a slu (or as he said in the last chat, a *slu-bag*)

    pps EFF OFF, PARKES ;)

  13. LOL so parkes has blocked people from commenting with f-uck off parkes HAHAHAHAH

  14. one last thing before parkes bans me. you should fix that previous comment issue on popular posts that have a lot of comments, it links back to the page

    and if you actually had a “like” option like fatboy stoetes you’d see how much people actually like the comments

  15. dustin, people think you are gay because you are extremely good looking yet have no girlfriend?

  16. Fuck off, grouchy.

  17. Grow the fuck up idiots…sorry. Had to be said.

  18. ^who the fuck is travis?

  19. I’ve been reading this blog for a couple of month now and this is probably my favourite article so far, well done!

  20. hahaha thats almost as good as the stephen colbert version

  21. And dude keep that stick on the ice, I’m fucking 17 and hearing people yell and swear at you is a bit over the top. They are fucking goofs I feel bad for dropping down to their level but someones gotta tell them cause Parkes can’t really do it. So in the man of Ricky make like a tree and fuck off Blueyays and Grouchy.

    I”m with KD on this and good luck with that award bud

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