Hey guys, it’s the weekend, and that means it’s time to go on some dates with your lady/that girl you met at Drinky McO’Houlihan’s last night. Dating’s tough, so it helps to have someone there to steer you right when things get knotty. It’s just nice to point you straight when things get confusing.
Well friends, Chris Bosh is that guy. He knows how to treat a lady, and in his interview with Elle magazine he explained the ins and outs of falling in love. For instance, if you see a girl you like, go for it. And keep going. Don’t give up.
ELLE: You put a lot of effort into making the 2008 All Star Team—you created a funny YouTube video in which you played a used-car salesman who was trying to get people to vote for you. What’s the hardest you’ve worked to woo a woman you admired?
Chris Bosh: It was with my fiancée [Adrienne Williams]. I met her in New York at a charity event—her friend liked the guy I was with. We eventually struck up a conversation and exchanged numbers. Then it was a true courting session over three months on the phone. I met her in July, and we didn’t go on our first date until October.
Just keep trying. Be a gentleman and show your interested. It helps if you have something in common, but it’s not totally necessary. The key is supporting each other.
ELLE: Could you fall in love with a woman who didn’t care about basketball?
CB: I did. My fiancée only likes it now because I play. When she comes to the games, she’s watching when I’m in—and when I’m out, she’s talking with her friends.
See? You don’t need a lady who loves basketball. You need a lady who knows how much you love basketball. Doesn’t even matter if she’s way to small to have ever played the game.
ELLE: Your fiancée is beautiful, but I have to say, I was a little shocked to see photos showing the size difference between you two: She’s five feet tall and you’re almost seven feet tall. Even in heels, her head seems to not quite reach your chest.
CB: You get used to it. If you were to ask her, “Do you really notice it?” she’d be like, “No.” I can understand how it might look bizarre to other people, but to me, it’s normal. I have a history of dating smaller women.
Yeah, sure, you “get used to it.” But aren’t some things a little awkward?
ELLE: I don’t want to put this too graphically, but are there any, uh, complications with such a size difference? If you were eye to eye, her feet would pretty much be at your crotch level.
CB: You always make things work.
“Make it work.” — Tim Gunn, on different sized people making whoopie
Oh, and for all you single dudes out there, just know that being a player isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
ELLE: Everything I know about basketballers with stories like yours—exceptional high school players drafted into the pros young—suggests there must have been a buffet of women available at all times. Was racking up numbers ever appealing to you?
CB: I’ve never really been a guy like that. I like intimacy with just one person who you can share your secrets and thoughts and ambitions with. In our profession, we’re in pretty vulnerable positions sometimes, so that can either motivate you to take advantage, or it can scare you a little bit. It scared me.
Hey, the man is sensitive. Ain’t nothing wrong with that.
But seriously, we can all learn a little something from Chris Bosh. He seems like he’s an excellent beau. Just remember that the next time he’s getting hit in the face. Sure, it’ll still be hilarious, but at least you’ll know someone feels bad for him.